Easy on the Heart, Please

Him : She left me. I caught her cheating, and by then she already ran out of ideas to fool me, so she ended it. And that happened a month before we were supposed to get engaged. Everything for the ceremony was ready. My mom was devastated.

Me : Okay...sian u. Must be hard. I can only imagine.

Him : Memang la susah. Sian lagi kat mak I. Tapi nak buat cam ne...(silence)..I rase I ni persinggahan je la. Because, mase I jumpe dia, she was trying to run away from another guy, her ex. She admitted it, and I, tak tau lah nape, I accepted her.

Me : Oh. So the guy she cheated on was her ex tu lah?

Him : Nope. Orang lain.

Me : Pulak...Takpela, nasib baik Tuhan bagi petunjuk kat you sekarang rather than later. Itu yang you Nampak depan mata, yang belakang you?

Him : Yup. I’m trying to see it that way, too. So Nampak sangat la I ni sekadar tempat mengadu je, sebab she find someone else pulak bila ngan I. Maybe I’m not her taste, kut, entahlah...

Too many of these stories have reached my ears; this is not the first one. I am ashamed to admit that there are girls like these, who drive men into thinking that they are into them, when their pure intention is only to get rid of their loneliness. I’ve learned the hard way, that, there is no excuse for breaking someone’s heart, it is just not an option. I did it before, and the guilt lies with me for as long as I can remember. It is still with me now, too.

I pity this friend of mine and I hope that his heartbreak will heal ASAP, I pity his family, the pain they have to go through, but I am glad, in a way, because the girl didn’t wait to have children with him before she cheats. Good riddance of bad rubbish, I would say.

To the girls out there who are with someone, please make sure that you are with that person for the real and correct reasons; not because you’re lonely or on rebound. The head can sometimes trick the heart into thinking that you are in love when actually you are just lonely. Just a kind reminder to not make a fool of someone’s feelings. Please. I’ve been on both sides, I should know.