The Brain Theory

My experiences showed that, you cannot avoid from falling in love. You don’t control it, not even when you want to.

You don’t tell the heart what to do; it falls for anyone it wants. There were many times when I question myself as to why I fell for whomever I fell, be it requited or not. In cases where it was not, and when he says ‘But you’re only a friend’, I blame myself; although I know very well that it wasn’t my fault. I did not pray for the heart to fall for him. I did not put an effort in making the heart fall for him; it just did, on its own. The heart was to blame, not me.

So when the heart has a brain of its own, I am often put in an awkward situation, and find myself singing to the cliché line sung by Olivia Newton John ‘My heart is saying ‘Fool! Forget him’, my heart is saying ‘Don’t let go, hold on to the end’.

So more often than not, the brain does all the cleaning up for the mess the heart has made.

‘But he’s not into you. There must be a reason. This is a lesson to be learned; maybe Karma was trying to tell you something. This time, think of yourself first, take into account your feelings and your needs-you have been ignoring them for him. Think of you now. Are you worth all the pain the heart causes? Of course you’re not’ was the Brain’s justification during the recent heartbreak.

For the second time, I listened to the Brain. I know the heart can be trained. It can fall in love all it wants, but the Brain can clean up the wears and tears when the heart breaks and discipline the heart, as long as you let the Brain do his job.

You have to be cruel to be kind. Let the Brain get rid of that guy you go ga-ga over, because, hey, if they didn't pass the 'Rational Filtering Test' from the Brain, then why cling on. Listen to the Brain and help yourself.