Random Ramblings 4

I’m stupidly in love.

A photo of him? Smirk.

A photo of him in a crowd? Smirk and think ‘He’s mine!’

A thought of him while driving? Smirk, and suddenly the song on the radio is about him.

I’m screwed.

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I hate myself for not being able to contain my anger, especially with my nephews. I lose my temper with my nephews too many times, especially when they refuse to shower or behave or just keep quiet.

One day when my sister was in the UK, visiting the Queen, suddenly the kids don’t bother me too much. In fact, I felt closer to them and was very protective of them. When the maid scolded them, I would back them up. I also didn’t mind the noise they made and tantrums they threw.

Somehow knowing that my sister was far away made me want them to know that they have me, and that they can rely on me. I was surprised over how I felt and reacted towards them. I realized that I really do love them despite their constant misbehaviours and drama. (Boys are sooooooooo hard to take care of.)

So yeah, my maternal instincts are kickin’ in. :P

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The latest addition to my workplace family is this guy who I despise, a lot. He smokes a lot, hence he has a pungent cigarette smells that sticks to your nose the whole day, has a terrible attitude and is always avoiding workload.

We hated him the first day he came in, when he said, ‘I didn’t really want this job. Someone sent in my resume to this company, a friend of a friend. I didn’t apply’.

When my colleagues and I are discussing about, say, a TV publication which our company wants to participate in, he’d say, ‘I have experience in that field, bla bla’. When we talk about events coming up which we have to organize, he would say, ‘I know what to do'. He has said a lot of things-things that we didn’t ask for. We find him annoying because of that and have since piled up on anger towards him for just being bloody annoying. We got angrier when we finally realized that all those ‘experience’ he boastfully admitted of having, are all LIES. He can’t do ANYTHING.

But among the many things he has said, there was one thing he said that has formally crowned him as a moron.

He was walking beside my boss one day after a meeting. A salesgirl passed by and waved at my boss, whom she has known before. My boss waved back-and so did he. Surprised, my boss asked, ‘Do you know her?’
‘No’, he said. ‘But I thought she was waving at me so I waved back’.
‘She waved at me lah, why you so perasan?’ my boss said.
It was obvious that the statement didn’t have any effect on him as he bluntly continued, ‘Why aren’t there girls like that in our department?’, while still holding his gaze upon the girl. My boss, shocked and annoyed shot back. ‘What do you mean by that?’ which made him finally shut up.

He is still able to be a moron everyday, always having something new to trigger our anger. Sometimes we wonder whether he has an annoyance scale he has to hit everyday, or someone from our past sent him to us just to make us pay for our former sins.

Whatever it is, it’s driving us nuts.

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I'm Yours

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Bad Romance

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Blinded Heart?

Blinded heart beware
Maybe it’s the logic, not the heart’s longing
Maybe it’s the fear of losing
Not the joy in having

Blinded heart beware
It is more than you can take
It is many there is at stake
At every step you make

Blinded heart beware
Some days are beautiful
Maybe you’ve been playing a fool
Maybe even more so, now that you are full

Blinded heart, lie no more
For you have eyes to see
What you feel about me
Or would you rather be free

Blinded heart, maybe it is wrong
Maybe it is that way all along
Don’t make up stories or a song
Don’t take another heart if it doesn’t belong
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The Other Woman - www.drphil.com

If you think putting a ring on a man's finger will keep "the other women" away, think again. Dr. Phil goes face-to-face with women who have affairs with married men.

Case #1
Ingrid says she can count on one hand the number of single men she's dated. "I don't go looking for these men. They naturally present themselves," she says. "If I wanted, I can bring home a different married man every night of the week."

She makes no apologies for what she does. "I don't think I'm the keeper of every marriage," she says. In fact, she blames the wives of married men for allowing their husbands to stray. "I think married women need a wake-up call," she says. "A married man will not make himself available if he is happy at home."

Dr. Phil doesn't buy it. He asks: "What the hell right does that give you to inject yourself into the relationship?"

Ingrid continues to justify her actions, saying that "if a gentleman is willing to invite me into it, he is telling me that relationship is not solid."

Ingrid, who's been married and divorced twice, says she's "pretty certain" that her husbands cheated on her, though they denied it. Asked how that made her feel, she says, "I took a little ownership of it, meaning something must be missing."


Case#2
When Erin found out that her husband Alan was cheating on her, she blamed herself, especially because she was busy with work, school, raising their two children, and was exhausted from being pregnant with their third.

"Had our communication been better, had he felt that he could talk about the things that were bothering him, he wouldn't have struck up a "friendship" with someone like Ingrid," she says, "and then it wouldn't have developed into something more."

Ingrid says Erin is "right on the money," but Dr. Phil is unconvinced. "What a complete and utter load of crap!" he says. "Women can do things to set themselves up to be victimized in this way. That much I agree with. That doen't mean you own it. It doesn't mean it's your fault!"

Women should be attentive and plugged into their mate, suggests Dr. Phil. "But you know what you need to do if you're not communicating? Start communicating!"

Dr. Phil tells Erin the affair her husband had was not her fault. "Do relationships get in tough places? Of course they do, " he says. "But the way to fix that is not to turn away from each other and go to someone outside the relationship."

Case#3
After a long-term affair with a married man, Annique turns to Dr. Phil for help. "I'm just so afraid that I'm going to wake up 10 years from now and it's going to be too late for me," she says. "I don't know how to break out of it and where to go from here."

Annique explains that the man has left his wife for her before, but he's always gone back to his wife. "You're getting played for a fool," Dr. Phil tells her, pointing out that even if he did leave his wife, the chance of a relationship that begins in an extramarital affair succeeding long term is less than five percent.

After Annique admits that she hangs on to the relationship because she fears being alone, Dr. Phil tells her: "If you're going to have to take a risk of freefalling into a world where you have no committed partner, wouldn't you rather do it now than later?" asks Dr. Phil. "You might meet someone wonderful out there, or you might even discover that 'If I'm going to be alone, I'm not a bad person to do it with.'"

Dr. Phil adds, "The only thing worse than wasting eight years of your life is wasting eight years and one day. So what you need to do is give yourself permission to walk out the door and say 'I'd rather take the risk of being alone than stay here and be used and abused.' And then you can begin to forgive yourself for ever being in this to begin with. But that can't start until you get the guts to walk out the door."

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Cheating Husbands - Meeting Needs? By Jenny Clair

Husbands cheat on their wives for many reasons. They could be bored with their lifestyle and feel that they need to do something exciting or they could be having a midlife crisis. The latter is very common as many husbands cheat on their wives when they seem to reach 40 for some reason.

Perhaps it is because they suddenly realise that 40 could possibly be half way through their lives and they need to give their egos a boost. Or perhaps as they reflect back over the past years they may feel that they have not achieved very much out of life. They may not be able to do much about changing their situation at home or to their current lifestyle so they decide to look elsewhere and become a cheating husband.

Cheating husbands always think that the grass is greener on the other side of the hill - just like to three billy goat gruffs did! For some reason they think that something is or has been missing from their lives or they feel that they have not fulfilled all their hopes, dreams or ambitions throughout their lives so far. So now is the time to try and change all this by cheating on their wives and they may achieve some of the goals that were missed over the years.

Cheating husbands looking for attention often go to night clubs to meet new girlfriends as this is a way of seeing and chatting to prospective dates. Once a cheating husband has lined up a date then all that is left to do is to escape from home to be with his new girlfriend. Escaping from home however is only a minor matter as he can use the excuse to work late or arrange business meetings.

The cheating husband may wish to go on holiday with his new found girlfriend and finding an excuse may not be necessary as if he has a circle of lads that he regularly goes around with then he has the ideal opportunity to say that he is going away with them.

Sometimes cheating husbands will stray for a few months but they soon realise that they really do miss their family and would very much like their old lifestyle back. Should their wife be willing to take them back then they are very lucky to be forgiven. Although it must be remembered that once a cheating husband has strayed he may be liable to cheat again later on in life whenever he feels the urge to boost his ego again!

Should a cheating husband not be forgiven by his wife then he stands to lose a great deal. There is his family for a start to consider and existing friends may not now stand by him. His whole life may need to be uprooted to accommodate his new situation. He may not only lose family and friends but also work colleagues that nay not see his cheating on his wife as a favourable decision. He may become so unhappy with life that he may have to consider leaving the area to which he used to call his home and move away and start afresh in an unfamiliar territory. This could end up being a very costly mistake both emotionally and financially and cheating husbands should consider very carefully the implications of cheating on their wives before committing themselves to an affair.

Jenny Clair is the editor of Marriage-Divorce-Separation.com an article based web site exploring the human side of marriage breakdowns, divorce and separation situations.
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I Am Here

I sit and I watch
And my heart is full
When The Coach said ‘Hold on, your turn’s next’

I sit while my feet tapped
And my fingers fidgeting
And my smile bright

I sit on the white bleachers
I sit among many like me
Our spirits free, looking into the field

I sit and I laugh
Looking at the players tripping and falling
Into the mud, or onto each other

I sit and I cheer and cheer
When they win, when they lose, when they fall
I cheer loud, so they can hear

I sit and I watch
Many of them leaving for the field
Upon The Coach’s calling

I sit and I see
The smiles on their faces, entering the field
When they do not even know whether they’d win

I sit and I think
I want to be there, on the field
To be battered and celebrated

I sit and wonder
What is not enough of me
That The Coach didn’t even spare me a hit or two

I sit and watch
The bleachers are getting empty
By the minute

I sit and cry
And wonder why The Coach has picked me
Only as a cheerleader

I sit and cry
And wonder why The Coach has decided
To sideline me

I sit and cry
And wonder why The Coach thinks
That I am not worth to be cheered

I am here, Coach
For bruises and hits
I am worth a play

I am here, still
I sit, stay and only watch them play
I don’t want to cheer them anymore, not in anyway
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